I get that all relationships go through ups and downs but when is it time to call it quits? Is it when it stops being exciting? Is it when you start feeling like you are being taken for granted? Is it when you can’t remember the last time you had sex? Or when, for no real reason at all, you wake up and the magic is gone?
I ask because I’m the kind of person who holds onto relationships way past their sell-by-date. I hate saying goodbye because it’s so hard. The person I’m dating, if it’s a proper (longer than 6 months) relationship has invariably become my best friend.
How on earth do you say goodbye to one of those?
When you date for a fairly long time the person you’re dating becomes your closest ally, your confidante. They are included in almost all the good memories you have of a certain time period. You can’t just remove them from your memory or erase them from your relationship history book.
I suppose that however you slice it saying goodbye is, unfortunately, going to be traumatic. I know that you have to experience the downs to enjoy the ups but, I for one, am not the biggest fan of the downs. Perhaps it’s not just me? Maybe it’s human nature to want to shield ourselves from the trauma? Maybe that why so many of us subconsciously decide that it’s OK to live in Relationship Neverland for as long as possible?
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Losing your virginity is no longer the big deal it once was. It’s now one of those things you just can’t wait to get over and done, like having your tonsils or wisdom teeth removed. Only, for some unfathomable reason, having your teeth pulled is now considered scarier than being deflowered. That is both incredibly sad and utterly shocking.
Not because I’m against people having sex before marriage. I am sure you realize I’m somewhat of an advocate for the sex before marriage movement – It’s all about test-driving the car before you purchase.
However when it comes to the big “V” I do have an issue with, surprise surprise, girls who lose theirs at ridiculously young ages, or for silly, silly reasons. These girls simply do not have the maturity to comprehend the emotional Pandora’s box they’re opening.
They have no idea of knowing that women, or at least most women, can’t separate sex from love. They also have no notion of how valuable their virginity is. How would they know this? It’s not exactly the kind of conversation parents what with their girls. The sex talk is so awkward for most people they had to rename it after something to do with nature. God forbid we use the “S” word!
We hide our prudish nature and own insecurities behind the façade of ‘keeping our children’s innocence safe and sheltered’. What we should be doing is educating these children and equipping them with the tools to shelter their own innocence.